How To Talk Dirty To Your Partner
October 30th, 2008 | by guest |Might be a bit unnerving to begin with but talking dirty to your partner can revitalize flagging relationships faster than just about any other method.
Although it may well seem to “be a bit too tough to do” or just “something you don’t do” in general, using dirty talk in a relationship can be done with the intention of doing more than just titillating your partners libido.
If you learn how to talk dirty to your partner and you do it right and do it even passably well, you can actually revive and energize a flagging relationship or a relationship that is just trundling along.
But you do have to learn how to talk dirty to your partner the right way, not the wrong way. Right way equals looks of amazement and, potentially, lust. The wrong way equals looks of disgust, puzzlement and an early trip to a relationship counselor!
Golden rule Number One in the world of talking dirty? Work out your partners acceptance levels and start below them!
If your guy or girl is used to you helping out at the church social each week and watches you baking cookies for the neighbors, (or if they actually do the baking themselves!) then having you suddenly trip out a string of expletives and lustful stories as you snuggle down together under the duvet is likely to make them reach for the phone and the nearest help line!
Work out what sort of things your partner finds erotic - not lusty - erotic, there is a huge difference here. Think less brazen and more suggestive, half hidden as opposed to fully exposed!
Settle for a level of suggestion that you believe they will not feel threatened by or uncomfortable with and start to slowly, quietly whisper your thoughts to them.
Lean in close, let them feel your presence without bearing over them, let them sense you as opposed to actually feel you, smell you and let them feel the faintest tickle of your warm breath as you murmur dirty talk into their ear.
As you talk, carefully watch their reactions. If they relax and sink into what you are saying, then you have the level of erotic v comfort just right. If they tense and try to flee or just lie stiffly and have a nervous look on their face, you have either pitched into talking dirty too strong or you haven’t reassured your partner with the right amount of closeness and intimacy needed for introing something this radical and new into your daily life!
Warm them up - make them aware of just how electric you can be and you’ll find the combination of your closeness and your suggestive talk will really get them straining at the bit to hold you.
After that - it’s totally up to you what you do next!
