Love: Is Dumb
January 28th, 2009 | by guest |Did your boyfriend recently break up with you? Would you like to get him back? This is perfectly understandable. Breakup can be a very frustrating experience. Specially if you were on the receiving end of the bad news. All the logic and all the smart quotes in the world, cannot reverse this feeling of frustration.
Relationships are complicated
Take an average person and ask why he or she broke up. They will probably not be able to give you a straight answer to your question.. This is all but normal, because straight answers are usually backed up by logic. Feelings on the other hand don’t work this way. This is the reason why they say things like “it’s not you it’s me” and offer their friendships. Feelings and logic are almost incompatible. But everything can be dealt with if you have the right method and approach. Relationships are no different. For example you can do some silly things and cause a breakup. But if something can be affected in a bad way, it means that it can also be affected in a good way.
Numbers speak for themselves. It’s general knowledge that an average boyfriend feels more at ease going back with his former girlfriend than finding a new one. Probably because some harmony and understanding was already created between the two lovers.
Related literature
One particular books comes to mind, that was written by a talented writer, specifically on the subject. The book is based on scientific and historical facts, which were assembled after examining many relationships and why some of them were fixed, while others remained permanently broken relationships. It reads less like a theoretical book and more like a handbook tutorial that explains how to gradually get an ex back. I remember how a girlfriend of mine applied this system on a seemingly permanent breakup. She dedicated all of her free time to perfecting the steps described in the guide and all her efforts paid off. Two and a half months later they were back together and better than ever. The advice in the book turns the tables and puts you in the power spot.
Instead of being a victim you become a witty object of desire. The old love gets rekindles and the relationship blossoms once again.
Oh the irony of life, she has so much power in this relationship now, that it’s almost too much. It’s up to a point where she’s the one contemplating on splitting up with him.
